The process of building and maintaining friendships is or has rather become an interesting one. We seem to bend easily to the idea of friendship when everything is working well, when we are at peace with the people that we call friends; however, when there are things which are happening in the friendship that could cause or are causing friction and discomfort, it becomes difficult for many to have those conversations that should heal or bring clarity to the friendship.
Having hard conversations is important for various reasons, as they play a significant role in personal growth, effective communication, building strong relationships, and addressing important issues. Here are some key reasons why having hard conversations is crucial:
- Conflict Resolution: Hard conversations often arise when there’s a conflict or disagreement. Addressing these issues openly and honestly allows parties to work through their differences, find common ground, and reach resolutions that benefit everyone involved.
- Clear Communication: Many times, we misunderstand each other because our minds process things differently. Difficult conversations require clear and effective communication. Engaging in these conversations helps individuals articulate their thoughts, feelings, and concerns in a direct manner, minimizing misunderstandings and misinterpretations.
- Personal Growth: Confronting challenging topics can lead to personal growth. Facing discomfort and vulnerability allows us to develop emotional resilience, empathy, and self-awareness. It pushes us out of our comfort zones and helps us learn more about ourselves and our values.
- Relationship Strengthening: Honest conversations are the foundation of strong relationships. Addressing difficult subjects shows that you value the relationship enough to work through tough issues. When both parties can communicate openly, trust and respect are fostered, leading to stronger bonds.
- Problem Solving: Difficult conversations often revolve around important problems or decisions. Engaging in these conversations can lead to effective problem-solving and decision-making, as different perspectives and solutions are considered.
- Preventing Resentment: Avoiding difficult conversations can lead to pent-up emotions and resentment. These unresolved feelings can damage relationships over time and make the eventual conversation even more challenging. Addressing issues promptly can prevent such negative feelings from escalating.
- Promoting Change: Some hard conversations are necessary for promoting positive change. Whether it’s addressing inappropriate behavior, discussing difficult topics, or advocating for needed adjustments, having these conversations can lead to meaningful improvements.
- Setting Boundaries: Hard conversations often involve setting and respecting boundaries. Openly discussing what is acceptable and what is not helps maintain healthy relationships and ensures that both parties feel comfortable and respected.
- Learning from Each Other: Engaging in difficult conversations allows individuals to learn from each other’s perspectives and experiences. It’s an opportunity to broaden one’s understanding and gain new insights.
There are many other things that having these hard conversations helps us to achieve. I would also mention that one of the other things that facilitates the essence of these conversations is the Importance of understanding the different kinds of friendships as explained here. This understanding will help to prioritize certain friendships that should require the effort and deliberation of such disciplines.
The bible says, “There will be more and more evil in the world. So most people will stop showing their love for each other.” Mathew 24:12 If we are not careful or deliberate, we might lose the most important things in life, or make life harder than it should be. This scripture shows us that whatever is happening to our friendships is not just physical or coincidental or even the effort of improving our welfare; somethings are not just happenings of life but clear attacks of the enemy on our wellbeing.
May God help us to be the best we can be for the sake of our friendships. His word says, “for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.” May this consistently be the story of our lives.
Blessings.
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